Chat to other families
The very early stages of a divorce or separation can be a very painful and difficult time. Not only are you grieving for the loss of your relationship and coming to terms with this but you are expected to continue with your day to day life, such as work and looking after your children.
Many parents say the initial stages of family breakdown feel like an emotional haze and a bit like being on auto-pilot. As you begin to cope with divorce or separation, you will feel a mixture of emotions including shock, anger, hurt or even relief. It is important to accept that this is a very natural part of the process of moving forwards and it will take time. As hard as it is, it is a case of taking each day as it comes without setting yourself unrealistic goals or expectations. It is common to feel up and down and no two days may be the same for a while.
You may get fed up of hearing that time is a great healer but there is a lot of truth in this even though it is the last thing you may feel when in the middle of such a horrendous time. It is hard to envisage your feelings and emotions in the near or distant future but as time passes, things may start getting a little easier as you start accepting and managing this change. Please see our video and read our tips below to help you.