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Spot the signs
It can be every parent’s dread if they suspect their child is experiencing bullying. If your child has not opened up to you about this, but you have a gut feeling, you may be on the lookout for signs that your child is being bullied.
Bullying affects lots of people and can happen anywhere. There is no legal definition of bullying. But it is usually defined as repeated behaviour which is intended to hurt someone either emotionally or physically and is often aimed at certain people because of their race, religion, gender or sexual orientation or any other aspect such as appearance or disability. Some of the signs below might not be applicable and there could be other worries your child is facing, and they may display similar emotions or actions as listed below.
Emotional signs of bullying
- Isolating themselves and not talking to the family
- Feeling withdrawn and spending more time alone
- Changes in eating habits
- Changes in behaviour such as feeling more angrier than usual
- Avoiding social media
- Not seeing their friends after school or at weekends
- Anxiety and nervousness that wasn’t displayed previously
Physical signs of bullying
- Bruises, cuts and marks that cannot be explained
- Issues with their sleep
- Complaining of headaches or stomach aches
- Bedwetting
- Loss of appetite
Changes at school
- Suddenly doing less well at school
- Anxious about going to school and saying they are feeling unwell more than usual
- Items that are stolen that cannot be easily explained
- Missing money that could have been stolen
- Damaged possessions such as bags, uniforms, etc.
- Not taking part in after school clubs
There could be other reasons for these signs, so try to avoid jumping to conclusions and ask yourself the following questions. Is there anything else bothering my child? Have there been changes at home like a new baby, or divorce or separation?
If there have not been any other changes and you suspect bullying may be the cause of the distress and anxiety, it is important to try and act as early as you can. Please read our article on how to talk to your child about bullying for advice on doing this.
Further resources
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