Advice for dads on talking about sex and relationships

Sex and relationships

“I got a book out of the library and said, ‘Look son, you don’t want me to tell you how it’s all done, but there’s a book. If you have a question, then come and ask me or your mum’.”

Where possible, it’s important for both parents to be involved in talking about these issues, and dads need to be able to communicate openly with their children, so that they know they can turn to you for information, guidance and support. There may even be some questions that they feel more comfortable asking you, rather than their mum or someone else, and it is important that they know you are ok with them approaching you. 

Talking about sex

“Talk to your children about sex – and everything else! It’s better that they learn about it from you than in the playground at school.” 

It’s not just about talking about sex. Young people say they want to talk about relationships, responsibilities and values. Not just about biology. It’s good to know that young people themselves are saying that they want their parents to be the ones they talk to about these issues. And research shows that when a teenager feels confident and knowledgeable through talking with their parents, they are more likely to delay the age of first sex.

Everyone has different thoughts about sex; deciding how to approach the issue with your children can be a touchy subject and can even lead to disagreements between you and their mother, your partner or other family involved in their upbringing. Remember that this is normal, and the most important part is being able to discuss the subject openly and calmly, and to encourage your children to consider all the options that are available to them, from deciding when the time is right through to where to get contraception from.