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Bereavement usually means losing someone we love through death and also follows on from change and loss. It is a devastating event, turning our world upside down and changing our lives forever. The death of a loved one is probably the worst loss we will ever experience. Grief is the reaction of over-riding intense pain and emotion that follows on from the death of someone who has been close to us. There is no single way to grieve. Everyone is different and each person grieves in his or her own way, and there is no telling how long it will take.
Grief can express itself in many different ways, often with immensely powerful, frightening and confusing feelings. Because each person within the family grieves in their own particular way and at their own pace, it is important to take one another into consideration. Talk to each other about thoughts and feelings. Although no two people's experiences will ever be the same, there are some common feelings which you may experience at various times in your grief.
As well as a deep sadness, you may feel anger, fear, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, despair, preoccupation with the loved one that has died, denial, restless over-activity or apathy. All these feelings are natural reactions, but the intensity may leave you feeling that you are not managing everyday life in the way you would like to. When going through bereavement, it is not uncommon to feel depression at some stage in their grief. The main thing to remember is that this is not a permanent state. It will pass when its purpose has been achieved. Although some people may need professional help if it deepens and persists.
It may help to seek support from several sources. No one can grieve for you. You have to find your own path through your grief, but you do not have to walk the road alone.
It may help to chat to other parents on our forums to find out how they are dealing with this issue within their family life. You can also talk to us online via our live chat service, email us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call us on our helpline on 0808 800 2222 to speak to trained family support worker.
British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
SANDS - Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society (UK)
Winston's Wishrd4u - Road for you (Cruse Bereavement Care's Youth Involvement Programme)
Watch our video on coping with bereavement